How to Effectively Communicate With Your Child

How to Effectively Communicate With Your Child

Communicating with your child can be difficult, here are ways to help you.

4 min read

Being a parent is quite tricky, especially when it comes to getting children open up about the good and not-so-good things that go on in their lives. Children have other sources to rely on for guidance. They have their peers, the internet, and other places. This hurdle makes it a challenge for parents to establish their authority on all things about growing up.

Knowing the details about your child’s fears and worries provides you with a useful context of how their child behaves.

Wait for them to let their guard down.

No child likes feeling attacked or confronted about their fears and worries. Consider a relaxed and safe environment. To create this kind of environment, activities such as walking, cooking together, or doing chores can be used as examples. Talking during the in-betweens of these activities won’t impose as much pressure as when you start the conversation with, “We need to talk.”

Be as human and as transparent as possible.

Listen attentively to your child. Respond with real and genuine emotion. Acknowledge their feelings and validate them whether they are feeling angry, scared, or confused. Empathize with them, and always make it a point to know where they’re coming from.

Ask questions and encourage them to tell the whole story.

Help your kids communicate better by focusing not only on academic literacy, but also on emotional literacy. Helping them solve their problems becomes an easier task when kids are able to articulate their problems with the end goal of finding a solution. When they articulate their issues completely, be sure to give them your undivided attention. This will encourage them to tell you the whole story every time.

Remember details.

Pay attention even to the smallest of things. As they say, “the devil is in the details.” Children as curious and attentive beings, usually have lots of them. Their stories are laced with clues, and if you’re not careful, you might miss them. A solution to a problem might be in one of the superficial details. Make it a point to listen closely!

Offer advice.

It may not be immediately apparent, but even the most stubborn kids seek guidance from an adult. The key is to offer advice patiently, not aggressively. Try not to lecture, and recognize your limits as a parent. There is wisdom in children too. You should trust them to make their own decisions based on the values you were able to instill in them.

Being a parent is hard work, but being able to communicate well with your children will make it a whole lot easier. While we greatly encourage you to follow these tips, keep in mind that you should also watch out for what works and what doesn’t. As a parent, you know your child best.




A Victim of Mom Shaming? How to Handle It With Class by Lei Dimarucut-Sison, Source:

5 Types of Mom-Shaming—and How to Shut Them Down by Charlotte Hilton Andersen, Source:


Recommended content

How to Support Your Partner After Paternity Leave

How to Support Your Partner After Paternity Leave

Due to fathers having fewer parental leaves, it is important for them to still find ways to support moms at home even after the end of their official paternity leave.

All the things that single mothers need to know about child support in the Philippines

All the things that single mothers need to know about child support in the Philippines

Find the information you need, from benefits and privileges to requirements and steps for claiming child support.

Encouraging my daughter to explore her talents

Encouraging my daughter to explore her talents

ParentZilla Solenn Heusaff-Bolzico shares her musings on raising her daughter, Thylane with husband Nico, and how both parents encourage her to explore her talents


When a Child Refuses to Brush their Teeth: Ways to get them brushing

Do you ever feel like your nightly routine is a struggle, defined by begging, pleading, and bribing your little ones to brush their teeth? For most parents, getting kids to brush their teeth can be like pulling teeth. Or, in other words, near-impossible. But luckily, parents whose kiddos have gone on strike from this healthy habit can rejoice: the experts say there are real reasons that kids hate brushing their teeth. We’ve also rounded up some tips on how to get your kids excited about the task.

Here Are Bonding Activities with Mom and Dad that Can Help Little Ones Learn to Talk

Here Are Bonding Activities with Mom and Dad that Can Help Little Ones Learn to Talk

One thing you should do consistently: just keep talking!

Parenting... Is Your Marriage Ready?

Parenting... Is Your Marriage Ready?

Parenthood hastens marital decline - years of studies suggest this phenomenon. Even relatively happy and satisfied couples who consciously bring themselves into this transition experience a period of stressful and sometimes maladaptive change. Thus, it is crucial that you plan for this possibility and build resilience in your marriage before you start fantasizing being called “mommy” or “daddy.


RealTalks Season 2 Episode 3

Congrats! You have a healthy and beautiful bundle of joy. Now, how to parent?

Average Rating
Average: 3.5 (4 votes)

Add your rating

Please login to leave us a comment.